Nice Guys versus Bad Boys

There's a funny video at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfeys7Jfnx8 about the idea that girls and women prefer "bad boys", while dating and seeking partners. The singer says that he has decided to treat his woman "like trash", even though it's not really what he wants to do.


This is very relevant to my situation, because I've always tried to be a "nice guy". My Postcard Mania campaign to find a wife specifically promotes that reality, by describing me as a nice guy.


But what does it mean to be a "nice guy", in the context of a dating relationship?


Here's what it means, to me:


When I make a promise, I try to keep it. There are extenuating circumstances that sometimes justify broken promises --- such as pledges to donate money to nonprofit groups, made prior to losing the ability to make such donations after losing one's job --- but incessantly breaking promises for frivolous reasons is despicable, in my opinion.


When a woman wants to unload on me because she's had an extremely bad day, I try to treat her as I'd want her to treat me in a similar situation. I try to offer a sympathetic ear --- although sympathy does not necessarily mean that I won't sometimes suggest that she things she might have done wrong, or how she might make things better in the future.


Here's what it most definitely does NOT mean to me:


Being a "nice guy" doesn't mean telling a woman what she clearly wants to hear, even though it's the total opposite of what one actually believes.


An extremely relevant example, for me, is anything related to the abortion issue. On that issue, my personal integrity matters a whole lot more to me than getting into any woman's pants.


To anyone reading this particular blog post, I want to say that I will be determined about my belief in the evil of abortion, until the day that I die.


I am opposed to genuine racism and sexism. I am certainly no misogynist. But there is no need to choose between women's rights and the rights of unborn children to be protected from lethal assault.


In fact, in a video entitled "Atheists Against Abortion", a woman named Ashley Sullivan points out that countries such as China --- where girls are specifically targeted for abortions --- are incredibly sexist. Regarding such "sex selection abortions", she says, "If that's not an issue for feminists, I don't know what is." https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFfNUBypo2k


There are men who think that abortion is a "woman's right". Fine. You're free to date, and possibly marry, such men. I have ZERO INTEREST in ever having an erotic relationship with you.


Constantly arguing with a woman, about something that means that much to me, would make me miserable. If your idea of reforming a man is to convert him to an abortion advocate, I have these simple words of advice to you: DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME.


Having said that, I will add that I think it's ridiculous when men constantly argue about everything, no matter how trivial.


Abortion is literally a "life and death issue". One's choice of restaurants is anything but a life and death issue.


I might express my preference, but it's only a preference. I'm extremely flexible about such things, provided that I have the economic ability to pay for the meals served by particular restaurants.