The Church and The Need for Partners

I recently found information, on the Internet, to the effect that only a small percentage of people who had found loving partners to whom they might get married were able to attribute those meetings to matchmaking help they had received from the people they had met at church ... let alone to specific singles groups which existed at their churches.

I recently sent a word-processed note to Grant Fishbook, pastor at Christ The King church, asking that he consider starting a group for singles, or that he help me to do so, inasmuch as I had very limited resources. I don't think that you should have to guess that he told me that that was not an area of concern for him, nor was it an area where I could reasonably hope for help from him.

It seems to me that if churches refuse to play an active role in helping people to find partners, they have no one to blame but themselves if Christians resort to things of which they disapprove! I want to ask, "What part of 'It Is Not Good For Man To Be Alone' do you not understand?"

Apparently, these so-called Christians think that they know better than God, since they do not think that they have a role to play in the process. Hence, one finds Christians turning to secular dating web sites like eHarmony.com and to dating services like Great Expectations, Events and Adventures, etc. This is particularly difficult for Christians who, like myself, lack a lot of money. I guess the message is that love is only for those who can afford it.

As one punk rock band sang, "Life sucks, and then you die."

But let a Christian even dare to suggest that he or she is actually interested in sex, and all hell breaks loose in the typical church. In fact, I fear that if the church I have begun to attend were to read some of my blog posts here on the blog for Get Hitched, they would quickly go from "kind and loving" to harsh and judgmental. That is a fear based on my most recent experience at another church.

I want to say, "Give me a break. Do you honestly expect me to believe that all of the children in this church arrived because the stork delivered them? You can make all of the disingenuous claims that you want to make, but it's self-evident that you are having sexual intercourse, because (the last time I checked), there was no virgin birth but the birth of Jesus Christ. For crying out loud, even Mary, the mother of Jesus, did NOT remain a virgin for the rest of her years on this earth.

No wonder Christians lack credibility in the eyes of many unbelievers!