It's been said, regarding love and romance, that there are "plenty of fish in the sea". But fishing in rivers, lakes or oceans is a piece of cake, compared with the challenge of finding a mate.
One challenge pertains to the obvious fact that people are not always available, either because they're married or engaged, or even "steady dating" with other singles.
If that were the only potential problem that might arise, things would still be relatively easy.
Workplace romances are often frowned on by employers. The worry is that a couple will go through rough patches, getting angry at one another and therefore finding it difficult to work together for the good of the company.
However, workplace romance is not the only kind of relationship that's seen by some as undesirable. Another taboo is a love relationship with a person with whom one has a "professional relationship". This is the "conflict of interest bugaboo". Is that female case manager who you often see attractive to your eyes? Can you easily see her as a girlfriend or wife? Hold on, buddy. She may tell you, if you ask her out on a date, that it would be a "conflict of interest".
If one is disabled, this may be a very difficult hurdle to overcome --- because the vast majority of women in one's social circles are professional case managers, if one is in such a situation. To be blunt, it's very frustrating to be hindered by such things.
For example, I visited the dermatologist yesterday to get some biopsies and to have the stitches removed from my last skin cancer operation. There was a new medical assistant there, named Nicole. She was very attractive, with cute little curls in her hair. If I had a car of my own (which is another problem if one is poor and disabled), I might conceivably drive to Oak Harbor and meet her after she got off work, to enjoy dinner with her.
As it is, the chances of that ever happening are slim to none --- even if she has no boyfriend or husband.
Even more frustrating is the fact that when one is nearly sixty years old, it's almost impossible to find a single, available woman at all --- regardless of whether or not one has a professional relationship with her, and regardless of where she lives.
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