Sex with the Lights On: Men Are Visual Creatures

An article worth reading, if you're one of those self-conscious women who runs for the light switch whenever you're about to make love to your man.

http://www.dearvagina.com/sex-with-the-lights-on-or-off/relationships/sexual-health/

Perpetual Celibacy: How Realistic Is It?

There are Christians who argue that any Christian man ought to adopt the sexless lifestyles of Jesus and St. Paul, and to "embrace celibacy" until the days that they die.

We've seen what happens when too many men cannot handle the pressure to refrain from doing what normal men want to do.
The Catholic church has experienced an epidemic in sexual molestation from priests who took vows of chastity. A large percentage of those cases involved homosexual molestation of underage people, aka children.

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A new landmark report has revealed that the vow of celibacy taken by Catholic priests and clergy may have been the contributing factor for the years of child sex abuse within the church.

Issued by the Australian church's Truth, Justice and Healing Council the report states that 'obligatory celibacy' may have caused priests to abuse thousands of children and that priests should have 'psycho-sexual development' training.

The council's chief executive Francis Sullivan told The Australian that the church must now examine 'how individuals who have chosen to be celibate, can remain healthy and not begin acting out of a dysfunctional sense of self'.

Inappropriate Knowledge

Some time ago, a young (and not coincidentally MARRIED) Christian pastor from Bellingham told me that he thought that I had an "inappropriate" interest in sexuality, because I'd commented beneath YouTube videos pertaining to various sex toys.

"Inappropriate" in whose eyes? And when, exactly, will it EVER be deemed appropriate for a 58-year-old man like me?

Yes, I am physically disabled, thanks to FOUR strokes I've suffered In the past four years. But that does not mean that I have been castrated or become a eunuch!!!!

I know about a woman's clitoris, her G-spot and her "deep spot".

I know that there are medical techniques that can enable a woman to have more and better orgasms. One is called "the G-shot". Another is called "clitoral unhooding." In a recent e-mail response, Dr. Susan Kolb from ClitoralUnhooding.com wrote, "Clitoral unhooding works if there is excess tissue in this area.  G-shot works by increasing the area in the vagina so it can be better stimulated.  Neither is risky.  You would need to ask the women."

BTW, May is "masturbation month" according to several sources I've read. HAPPY MASTURBATION MONTH. http://www.mensfitness.com/women/sex-tips/may-national-masturbation-month

Movie Ads As A Promotional Option

To get the group Get Hitched off the ground, I need promotional options that exceed business cards, although those are a good idea.

One option is to run ads that are displayed before movies at relatively small local movie theaters, like the Pickford Film Center (http://www.pickfordfilmcenter.org/).

For Better or Worse, For Richer or Poorer

In the movie "Love Story", Ali McGraw's character chose to write her own marital vows. See https://youtu.be/4LH0lUap8fc.

I think that her character rejected the traditional vows, in part, because women were one day expected to promise "to love, honor and OBEY". As a feminist, she couldn't handle that.

But a traditional wedding vows are more popular than these "hippy dippy" vows. A standard vow (http://weddings.about.com/od/weddingvows/a/traditionalvows.htm) was as follows:

I, (name), take you (name), to be my (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.

One can read other traditional vows at the aforementioned web page. Another says, "in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, and in joy as well as in sorrow". The part about loving in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad pretty much mirrors the part about health, but substitutes "good times and bad for references specifically to finances. It's the same idea, though.

In the video at https://youtu.be/qy7FOxhHGQA, the groom cries at the wedding. (He and his bride are both obviously Christians.)

I can REALLY relate to that, for reasons that are quite different from his. At 58, and with my mobility disability, it will be a minor miracle if I ever get married to an attractive woman.

Dating Over 50

Here's a video pertaining to the issue of age, in relation to dating. http://youtu.be/9J_bJqseLN4

As a 58-year-old man, these issues are very close to my heart. I freely admit that I have little or no interest in dating someone who looks so old that she appears to be a candidate for life in a hospice!

I totally agree with the woman who states that most men would prefer to date a woman who's 10 or 15 years younger than himself. I also agree that people should be honest about their own age, regardless of their gender.

Widows and Remarriage: About Tammy Trent

One of my Facebook friends is a woman named Tammy Trent. She's a talented Christian singer, from Michigan but now living in Nashville Tennessee (where so many Christian singers live). She fell in love and married a man almost the same time that she became a Christian. (She was very young at the time, but they waited until she was in her early twenties to get married, as did my own parents.) Her stage name of Trent was the first name of her husband, Trent. (Her married surname seems to have been Lenderink.)

YouTube has several Tammy Trent videos. The one at http://youtu.be/cX2_gwG6cSI tells her story, in relation to the tragic death of her husband in a diving accident in Jamaica. http://youtu.be/0AAwEEVi2W0 also tells that story.

Trent's body was recovered around the same time as the tragic attack on 9-11-2001. (That must have been VERY difficult, since most people were so preoccupied with the terrorist attack that they had little time left over for her private tragedy.) She also tells the story on her own web site, at https://www.tammytrent.com/index.php/about.

Tammy is probably not gorgeous enough to be a supermodel (e.g., Cindy Crawford), but she's still pretty enough for my own tastes.

The fact is that there are attractive women who are "available", some of whom have lost their husbands to death, and some of whom have lost their husbands to divorce. (Of course, there are also women who have never been married, but the number of such women in my own age bracket is so ridiculously small that it's hardly worthy of my attention.)

I am unlikely to visit Nashville in the near future, Even if I did that, the chances are good that I'd never bump into Tammy. But there are plenty of available women in or near Whatcom County. I just need to make a love connection to such a woman. I deeply yearn to do that. I've been single for my entire life, and I'm tired of it.

I freely admit that the desire to experience sexual intercourse is one of my motivations. But there's more to marriage than sexual pleasure. Having a "soul mate" is a matter of committing one's self to someone who shares one's values and interests to some extent.

Having a helpmate is not always a smooth experience, but I firmly believe that it's worthwhile, regardless of whether or not a couple has children, and regardless of whether or not those children came into existence via normal reproduction, or via adoption.

This blog does not have a huge number of readers, but if you're a widow or divorcee who longs for a spouse as much as I do, please feel free to call me (360-201-6473) or e-mail me (mark_w_pettigrew@hotmail.com). I'd love to share a cup of coffee with you, and possibly a nice dinner, so that we could get to know one another.