Sunday, May 29, 2016

Love and My Bucket List


This post appears as Number 28 in a blog that already has 27 posts on it. But before you read the others --- if you read the others --- please read and carefully consider this one. I intend to create a QR code leading to this one, so that that code can be printed on a forthcoming EDDM mailing to be sent out.
 
A while back, I saw a movie entitled "The Bucket List", starring Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson. There's a good summary of the plot of the movie on Wikipedia (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Bucket_List), so I won't fully summarize it here for you.
 
In that movie, Edward Cole has the wealth to enable the two men to engage in a series of adventures that other men with less wealth could only dream about.


I, too, have a bucket list. Mine does not require that I take trips to exotic locations, so it's theoretically much less expensive --- and achievable even by a disabled man who relies on SSI benefits.


I could undoubtedly put a number of things I would like to do on that list --- and I've done so elsewhere. I've always been an ambitious man.


But time has a way of helping one to focus on things. If I had to list just a couple of goals that would complete me and make me feel as if my life had not been in vain, these are those things:


ONE

I want to publish my life's story, in the form of a book entitled "Losing It". The book is now up to 460 pages long (at last count), telling you that I've been writing it for quite some time. I recently paid Infinity Publishing, having finally come up with enough money for that purpose.

TWO

I want to experience sex with a reasonably attractive woman, for the first time in my life.


That undoubtedly sounds like a fantasy to anyone who knows that I'm now sixty years old, and that I have a mobility-related disability caused by four strokes.


The fact that I'm currently being treated for skin cancer does not help any, although I have reason to believe that the treatment with Mohs surgery will be completely successful.


Sex without love is not ideal, by any stretch. However, I've sometimes toyed with the idea of visiting a brothel because I've felt desperate. I emphasize the word "toyed" here. I AM still a virgin.


Candor about such things is a poor recipe for finding a woman inclined to offer actual love. But I've never been the kind of man who believed in deceit. If I ever do find a woman to whom I can get married, she needs to be one who can handle honesty, including honesty about my intense commitment to the goal of ending legal abortion.

 
AN IMPORTANT ADDITION: It's been said that everyone has some kind of "baggage" which is brought to a relationship. Often, that term is used to refer to previously married people who have become divorced, and who may still be angry at their ex-spouses. It's also used, some times, in reference to widows or widowers who are still grieving their deceased mates.
 
Having never been married, my own "baggage" has a totally different character. It wasn't as if I didn't WANT to get married. It just never worked out for me. Therefore, I almost certainly have some residual anger about the manner in which I was dumped. I don't pretend to have been perfect, but I think that the primary explanation was simply the fact that life had not been good to me in terms of such things as my income.
 
The existence of that residual anger, however, does NOT mean that I'm angry at ALL women. If indeed I were, I probably would not DESERVE a wife. As it is, I believe that I very much deserve to be married.
 
I try not to make promises lightly. This is one thing I can promise: I promise to any woman willing to love and cherish me that I will return that favor. I will never "cheat" on such a woman.
 
If you've read this blog post, and if you think that you can handle the things I've said about myself, please give me a call at 360-201-6473, or send me an e-mail at mark_w_pettigrew@hotmail.com. I would love to spend time getting to know you to learn more about you.
 
NOTE: I recently downloaded software for Skype, so you may see the Skype symbol next to my phone number here. Skype is great, as a means of saving money via VOiP, as long as you call other Skype users. But both of you have to have compatible headsets. I don't yet have such a headset. The phone number shown here is an inexpensive, prepaid cell phone from Net 10. Therefore, if you call me at that number, you will be charged for the call. Just to let you know.