https://youtu.be/shpW_68JYy0
A self-explanatory video.
Saturday, May 23, 2015
The Flip Side of Slut Shaming
I just posted a Facebook status, that said the following...
From the web site for Slut Walk Seattle:
Does one’s attire make one more likely to be a victim of sexual violence?
No. The notion that rape is sex, or about sex, is a common misconception - rape is a violent act about anger, power, dominance, and humiliation. Most rapists report not remembering what their victim was wearing, and studies of rapists suggest that victim attire is not a significant factor.
In addition, a study on victim precipitation of violent crime found that 4.4% of all reported rapes involved provocative behavior on the part of the victim, compared with murder cases in which 22% involved provocative behavior.
Sexual violence knows no demographic boundaries; the elderly, persons with disabilities, children, and men all experience sexual assault.
What’s more, most sexual assaults do not follow the stereotypical narrative of a stranger in the bushes: six in ten sexual assaults are committed in the victim’s home or the home of the victim’s friend, neighbor, or relative, and approximately 2 in 3 rapes are committed by someone known to the victim. Clothing cannot logically be a factor in these situations.
Finally, the idea that attire provokes assault is fundamentally irrational because sexual assault isn’t a crime of opportunity. It generally involves a tremendous amount of planning and risk. Rapists are not robots who instantly attack at the sight of flesh. They stalk, study, and often groom their victims for great lengths of time prior to the assault.
MY COMMENT:
If SlutWalk Seattle is right in saying that rape has nothing to do with sex, then how is it that a man or woman who expresses intense interest in sex can be called names, like calling the person a "potential predator"?
I do not deserve to be called a predator or a "potential predator", any more than a woman deserves to be raped because she chose to wear a particularly sexy outfit.
From the web site for Slut Walk Seattle:
Does one’s attire make one more likely to be a victim of sexual violence?
No. The notion that rape is sex, or about sex, is a common misconception - rape is a violent act about anger, power, dominance, and humiliation. Most rapists report not remembering what their victim was wearing, and studies of rapists suggest that victim attire is not a significant factor.
In addition, a study on victim precipitation of violent crime found that 4.4% of all reported rapes involved provocative behavior on the part of the victim, compared with murder cases in which 22% involved provocative behavior.
Sexual violence knows no demographic boundaries; the elderly, persons with disabilities, children, and men all experience sexual assault.
What’s more, most sexual assaults do not follow the stereotypical narrative of a stranger in the bushes: six in ten sexual assaults are committed in the victim’s home or the home of the victim’s friend, neighbor, or relative, and approximately 2 in 3 rapes are committed by someone known to the victim. Clothing cannot logically be a factor in these situations.
Finally, the idea that attire provokes assault is fundamentally irrational because sexual assault isn’t a crime of opportunity. It generally involves a tremendous amount of planning and risk. Rapists are not robots who instantly attack at the sight of flesh. They stalk, study, and often groom their victims for great lengths of time prior to the assault.
MY COMMENT:
If SlutWalk Seattle is right in saying that rape has nothing to do with sex, then how is it that a man or woman who expresses intense interest in sex can be called names, like calling the person a "potential predator"?
I do not deserve to be called a predator or a "potential predator", any more than a woman deserves to be raped because she chose to wear a particularly sexy outfit.
Monday, May 18, 2015
Sex with the Lights On: Men Are Visual Creatures
An article worth reading, if you're one of those self-conscious women who runs for the light switch whenever you're about to make love to your man.
http://www.dearvagina.com/sex-with-the-lights-on-or-off/relationships/sexual-health/
http://www.dearvagina.com/sex-with-the-lights-on-or-off/relationships/sexual-health/
Tuesday, May 5, 2015
Perpetual Celibacy: How Realistic Is It?
There are Christians who argue that any Christian man ought to adopt the sexless lifestyles of Jesus and St. Paul, and to "embrace celibacy" until the days that they die.
We've seen what happens when too many men cannot handle the pressure to refrain from doing what normal men want to do.
The Catholic church has experienced an epidemic in sexual molestation from priests who took vows of chastity. A large percentage of those cases involved homosexual molestation of underage people, aka children.
QUOTE:
The council's chief executive Francis Sullivan told The Australian that the church must now examine 'how individuals who have chosen to be celibate, can remain healthy and not begin acting out of a dysfunctional sense of self'.
We've seen what happens when too many men cannot handle the pressure to refrain from doing what normal men want to do.
The Catholic church has experienced an epidemic in sexual molestation from priests who took vows of chastity. A large percentage of those cases involved homosexual molestation of underage people, aka children.
QUOTE:
A new landmark report has revealed that the vow of celibacy
taken by Catholic priests and clergy may have been the contributing factor for
the years of child sex abuse within the church.
Issued by the Australian church's Truth, Justice and Healing
Council the report states that 'obligatory celibacy' may have caused priests to
abuse thousands of children and that priests should have 'psycho-sexual
development' training.The council's chief executive Francis Sullivan told The Australian that the church must now examine 'how individuals who have chosen to be celibate, can remain healthy and not begin acting out of a dysfunctional sense of self'.
Inappropriate Knowledge
Some time ago, a young (and not coincidentally MARRIED) Christian pastor from Bellingham told me that he thought that I had an "inappropriate" interest in sexuality, because I'd commented beneath YouTube videos pertaining to various sex toys.
"Inappropriate" in whose eyes? And when, exactly, will it EVER be deemed appropriate for a 58-year-old man like me?
Yes, I am physically disabled, thanks to FOUR strokes I've suffered In the past four years. But that does not mean that I have been castrated or become a eunuch!!!!
I know about a woman's clitoris, her G-spot and her "deep spot".
I know that there are medical techniques that can enable a woman to have more and better orgasms. One is called "the G-shot". Another is called "clitoral unhooding." In a recent e-mail response, Dr. Susan Kolb from ClitoralUnhooding.com wrote, "Clitoral unhooding works if there is excess tissue in this area. G-shot works by increasing the area in the vagina so it can be better stimulated. Neither is risky. You would need to ask the women."
BTW, May is "masturbation month" according to several sources I've read. HAPPY MASTURBATION MONTH. http://www.mensfitness.com/women/sex-tips/may-national-masturbation-month
"Inappropriate" in whose eyes? And when, exactly, will it EVER be deemed appropriate for a 58-year-old man like me?
Yes, I am physically disabled, thanks to FOUR strokes I've suffered In the past four years. But that does not mean that I have been castrated or become a eunuch!!!!
I know about a woman's clitoris, her G-spot and her "deep spot".
I know that there are medical techniques that can enable a woman to have more and better orgasms. One is called "the G-shot". Another is called "clitoral unhooding." In a recent e-mail response, Dr. Susan Kolb from ClitoralUnhooding.com wrote, "Clitoral unhooding works if there is excess tissue in this area. G-shot works by increasing the area in the vagina so it can be better stimulated. Neither is risky. You would need to ask the women."
BTW, May is "masturbation month" according to several sources I've read. HAPPY MASTURBATION MONTH. http://www.mensfitness.com/women/sex-tips/may-national-masturbation-month
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